Wonderful Friends

13 years ago, in the spring of 1995, I took the classified ad I had cut out of the paper and carried around with me for months out of my wallet and picked up the phone. A very warm and caring woman answered on the other end and changed my life! No, I wasn't calling a rehab - I was calling the Suburban Adventure Club (SAC) in Massachusetts. I told her of my circumstances and that I wasn't looking for a dating club, but wanted to take my life in a new direction. In her turn, she convinced me not only to give the club a try, but to go away for a weekend in Martha's Vineyard with a group of complete strangers. Believe it or not, I agreed. Those strangers, some I met that very first weekend, and others I met over the next months and years, have turned into some of the most important people in my life ( I did eventually meet my husband through the club). I can honestly say that without the lifeline of these friends, those first days and weeks of my diagnosis and surgeries would have been a completely different experience. Cards, letters, emails and gifts came pouring across the border to brighten my days and help me remember there were people out there who cared about me.

Then, a few weeks ago, a gift that cannot adequately be described in words arrived (see photo). They had a quilting day and made me a beautiful quilt which will allow me to wrap myself in their love and caring, not only as I continue through my treatment, but for the rest of my life. There have been very few times when I have cried through this process, mostly when I'm tired, but when I opened the package and realized the extent of what I was holding in my hands, I could not stop the tears (as I cannot stop them now as I write this). You may have noticed my new quilt in the Chemotherapy #2 treatment photos from last week, and you can be sure that you will see it in all the remaining treatment sessions.

Support is such an important part of cancer treatment. There are as many ways to support a cancer patient as there are patients that need that support. Just take a minute to think through what the person you know needs most – sometimes it’s a dinner or a ride and sometimes it’s just to be treated like a person without cancer and then a lot of the time, it’s just to let them know you love and care about them. And, as my friends have shown, there is the completely unexpected, and forever treasured.